Saturday, November 28, 2015

Why Students Grow to Dislike School?


Ever wondered why some kids hate Hebrew school? Why their parents that now "force" them to go to Jewish School/Hebrew school/ Sunday school, had bad memories?
I spoke to many parents about their past experiences and I spoke to students who left Jewish school to be tutored privately by me. They all had the same answer: "it was boring" "I didn't understand what I was saying" "I memorized the text because I didn't have certainty reading Hebrew." I felt for these people as my students always had fun learning Hebrew and preparing for their Bar/Bat Mitzvah. What differentiated me from other teachers? 
It was easy to find out from all the "thank you" notes and verbal appreciation: "I enjoyed learning with you." "I had fun" "I understood what I was saying," "I felt confident reading" "I learned so much from you not just about reading Hebrew but about the history, the Jewish customs and holidays and even some spoken Hebrew" "I didn't feel like a robot" "I knew what I was saying" and on and on. 
In my teaching I used different text books. I was not happy with most of them as they lacked important aspects. The least problematic one was a book that was published many years ago. I liked the review of previously taught letters. I liked the fact that the letters were big and clear. Any beginner student should have such text book regardless of how old they are. One of the main issues I had with that book was that you could ONLY use it with a teacher. There was no telling if the student reading/decoding the written words knew whether he read it correctly or not. He needed a teacher to be by his side to reassure him when he read it correctly and correct him when he did not. Such book and many like it creates too much dependency on the teacher. Another issue with the above is that there is no use practicing at home; as a matter of fact, it is better that one did not practice at home as he/she might adopt bad reading habits.
Another problem with Hebrew text books is that most Hebrew books out there contain words without their translation. Imagine how you'd feel if you had to read sounds that meant nothing to you and you had to do it for one hour every week.
A language COMMUNICATES concepts, name of things, actions, etc. Reading words without knowing their meaning is like having served the bone of a stake without the meat. I am sure you'd want to flee to a different restaurant. Chinese perhaps? But sure thing is that you would not like to keep sitting and staring at the plate before you. Hebrew books that do not provide translation of the words defeat the whole purpose of learning how to read Hebrew.  
Do not purchase books that do not provide translations of every single world you read. 

Learn How to Read Hebrew for Real solves the two aspects I talked about in this article. In the next article I will tell you about other issues and their solutions.

Wednesday, September 18, 2013


Do Things Happen by Chance?
By Ruti Yudovich

 “People do not meet by chance––they navigate their lives to meet certain people for a specific purpose.” ( A quote from "I Hate to Say Goodbye")

Has it ever happened to you that you meet a total “stranger” but you felt you knew that person your whole life? Well… guess what?  You most likely knew that person before. You were either soul-mates or you may have unfinished business from before that you now have to finish or you were just friends or… (Fill in the blank).

Sometimes we wonder about people we meet. There are times we’re very grateful for meeting them––there are times we curse the day we were in the same time and the same place with the person. Sometimes we sincerely regret ever meeting certain people.

Whether we want to accept it or not, we have something to do with it. It maybe hard to swallow that pill, and how can we possibly agree that we created the association with someone who was mean to us? You may ask: how is it possible that I have navigated my life to meet that person?

Well… let’s look at this. First, just by assuming the point of view that it is we, you and me, who have something to do with it, make us feel more in the driver’s seat than simply being a victim. Second, by adopting this point of view, we can look at the relationships we have or had and see how they benefited us. When we blame another, it is like seeing things through dirty glasses––not seeing the whole picture.

When we ask ourselves what the purpose was that made us navigate toward a certain person, we can find some lessons that will help us grow and eventually become happier and wiser beings… if we learn the lesson that is.

All you have to do is look at the people you meet or you knew and find at least one good purpose for meeting that person. You’ll be surprise at how long a list you will have.  Every person we meet has something to teach us.

And if you ever thought that you are not valuable, that you don’t create effects on people’s life, think again. Now that you made the list of lessons you have learned from a certain person take a look at how much YOU can do to benefit another. A smile, a good word, a look of approval can create magic in one’s life even for a stranger you meet on the street. Go ahead and just start smiling at people and see what happens.


We are very fortunate to have the most valuable asset of all –– the power of choice. The beauty is that no matter who is in our lives, no matter the lesson we learn from the people we met––at the end, it is our choice whether we want to keep that person in our lives or not.

But the most important message I want to relay to you today is to keep around you those people that lift you up and ignore or cease to associate with those that continue to put you down and make you feel little and unimportant. Remember, the power of choice is your best asset. Use it!




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Ruti Yudovich recently released her first novel I Hate to Say Goodbye, based on her early years in Israel.
Additional information on her works can be found at http://www.ihatetosaygoodbye.com and FB: http://www.facebook.com/ihtsgb?ref=hl