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Do Things Happen by Chance?
By Ruti Yudovich
“People do not meet
by chance––they navigate their lives to meet certain people for a specific purpose.” ( A quote from "I Hate to Say Goodbye")
Has it ever happened to you that you meet a total “stranger”
but you felt you knew that person your whole life? Well… guess what? You most likely knew that person before. You
were either soul-mates or you may have unfinished business from before that you
now have to finish or you were just friends or… (Fill in the blank).
Sometimes we wonder about people we meet. There are times
we’re very grateful for meeting them––there are times we curse the day we were in
the same time and the same place with the person. Sometimes we sincerely regret
ever meeting certain people.
Whether we want to accept it or not, we have something to do
with it. It maybe hard to swallow that pill, and how can we possibly agree that
we created the association with someone who was mean to us? You may ask: how is
it possible that I have navigated my life to meet that person?
Well… let’s look at this. First, just by assuming the point
of view that it is we, you and me, who have something to do with it, make us
feel more in the driver’s seat than simply being a victim. Second, by adopting
this point of view, we can look at the relationships we have or had and see how
they benefited us. When we blame another, it is like seeing things through
dirty glasses––not seeing the whole picture.
When we ask ourselves what the purpose was that made us navigate
toward a certain person, we can find some lessons that will help us grow and
eventually become happier and wiser beings… if we learn the lesson that is.
All you have to do is look at the people you meet or you
knew and find at least one good purpose for meeting that person. You’ll be
surprise at how long a list you will have.
Every person we meet has something to teach us.
And if you ever thought that you are not valuable, that you
don’t create effects on people’s life, think again. Now that you made the list
of lessons you have learned from a certain person take a look at how much YOU
can do to benefit another. A smile, a good word, a look of approval can create
magic in one’s life even for a stranger you meet on the street. Go ahead and
just start smiling at people and see what happens.
We are very fortunate to have the most valuable asset of all –– the power of choice. The beauty
is that no matter who is in our lives, no matter the lesson we learn from the
people we met––at the end, it is our choice whether we want to keep that person
in our lives or not.
But the most important message I want to relay to you today
is to keep around you those people that lift you up and ignore or cease to
associate with those that continue to put you down and make you feel little and
unimportant. Remember, the power of choice is your best asset. Use it!
***
Ruti
Yudovich recently released her first novel I Hate to Say Goodbye, based on her
early years in Israel.
Additional
information on her works can be found at http://www.ihatetosaygoodbye.com and FB: http://www.facebook.com/ihtsgb?ref=hl
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